Rambling.

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I have, just now, become temporarily obsessed with the idea of being cuddled while tied up.

I think because it's so very primal a pleasure, the warm fuzzy sort--to be held while one is literally helpless, just basking. Nothing sexual--as odd as it is to find bondage and sex not in conjunction in my mind. Just...there.

The idea first came into my mind, I remember, during one of those very rare intervals when the ex-GF-of-doom (TEGFOD?) at least somewhat wanted to tie me up. (I forget entirely the circumstances that led to this.) I was feeling distinctly fuzzy and asexual at the time, though things quickly went south as she did various unexpected things to me. (Being not kinky or kink-literate in any conventional sense, she tended to do unexpected things. I had no idea I could come, repeatedly, on command, without touch. It was certainly interesting.) But I remember commenting later that, more than anything, I just wanted to be cuddled while tied up. She seemed surprised at the thought, and said that it was the last thing she would've thought of or felt comfortable doing. But that's another kettle of fish, and neither here nor there.

Is this so odd a thing?

Comments

[cryogenia.livejournal.com]

Actually, I don't think so. I've got some friends in the scene, and for many of them, being tied up is not a sexual release at all. It's just a chance to give up, be yourself at your worst, and be cared for/held back. I don't think it's weird at all :)

[mllelaurel.livejournal.com]

I don't think that's odd at all. You covered the idea of vulnerability. I think it's also a gesture of trust, on both ends. Unfortunately, I don't quite have the vocabulary for a lot of what I want to say, but I think vulnerability, trust, and a sense of *fun* about it cover most of it.

[manda-babylon.livejournal.com]

I don't think that's odd at all. I like the same thing, though, for me, bondage and sex go hand-in-hand. I like to be held just afterwards, though, because normally, when we do bondage, my boyfriend and I are role-playing, and the post coital cuddle means that we are ourselves again and free to be mushy and boneless...

[cktraveler.livejournal.com]

I don't know. It sounds only slightly unexpected to me. After all, helplessness through bondage heightens all the senses, so it would make any pleasurable sensation more so. And I love combining massage with bondage, which isn't that far away.

[paper-crystals.livejournal.com]

I think that would be comfy. Would you want to be tied to something or just tied to yourself as it were?

[velvet-mace.livejournal.com]

As others have said, being tied up is all about letting go and relaxing and trusting. I can absolutely see why you'd want to be tied up and cuddled.

[oakenguy.livejournal.com]

I keep forgetting to ask...is it just being tied up, or being restrained generally? There are a lot of mummification fans out there who know *exactly* what you're talking about. :)

[mattador.livejournal.com]

Doesn't seem weird to me.